I’ve been looking at ‘shoulds’ today. A lot of folks believe they don’t have any ‘shoulds’ left. If so, I bow humbly to your magnificence. And I’d ask you, is that really true? How much of what is taken for granted is actually a ‘should’? Here is a short list off the top of my …
Category Archives: resilience
Permission to Be, to Feel, to Acknowledge the Struggle
Walking this morning, I was noticing my body, paying attention to where it was tight and where it was … not loose, but effortless, almost non-existent in the physical sense. A prayer came to mind, and that was rather unusual, because prayer seems to have escaped me as I don’t know who I’d pray to. …
The Sacred Thirds: Grief, Numbness, Distraction
After Kenny died, my day was split into three compartments: grieving, numbing out, and distraction. The grief was intense. Had I allowed it free rein, I likely wouldn’t be here today. I needed to absorb and integrate, to feel into nothing at all, to clear out of the painful shards without actually doing anything. I …
Life’s Messy
The biggest divider in our world is God. Not the actual God, but ideas about God, beliefs about who and what God is, sacred cows taking the form of deity, of rules and regulations, of do and don’t do, be and don’t be, of my way is the right way. I have to stop a …
… and that’s a miracle
An errant thought passed through my oft empty mind as I was slipping into sleep and made me smile. We love and feel it fall apart; we lose loved ones and some we love, betray us. On this earth walk, we are tragically wounded and have our hearts broken. It is unavoidable. And even so, …
Amaya Gayle 